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Surround yourself with a group of friends who are right for you

Do you surround yourself with a group of friends that’s right for you?

Growing up, I remember how parents used to vet my friends. I would even be banned from seeing some of them. The reason behind it: They were not right for me. I never understood the logic behind all this. If anything, I thought they just wanted to make my life miserable. Until I became a teenager and got into trouble in school because of some of those friends. That’s when I began to understand the whole thing. 

One thing growing up has taught me is the importance of surrounding myself with the right people. If the people you are calling friends who are so self-absorbed and cant even listen to you, then it’s about time you reconsidered your choices.

You need to have people who are genuinely interested in you as a person. These are the kind of people who don’t just want you for what you have. Or the kind of people who just want you because you are a stepping stone to something that will better their lives. Opportunists and selfish people are not real friends.

How to identify the right group of friends. 

The right friends will always be there for you. They will laugh with you when happy and comfort you when you are sad. They will sit with you and enjoy your riches. And they will assist you when you don’t have enough. These are the people who will give it to you straight when you are doing things that are detrimental to your life. They won’t sit, watch you and encourage you then laugh at you when you fail. However, if you decide to a hardhead about it, they will stand by your decision and will be there for you when you fall.

Finding the right group of friends isn’t easy. But you are better off without friends at all, than having a bunch of bad ones.

If you notice something off about the people you hang out with, weed them out early enough. It will save you lots of disappointments in future.